100 Questions Before Nikah
A complete checklist for serious marriage conversations
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☪️Aqeedah & Tawheed8 questions
1.What is your understanding of Tawheed (the oneness of Allah)?
2.What are your most important articles of belief?
3.What is your view on bid'ah (religious innovations)?
4.Which scholars do you follow and take knowledge from?
5.What is your view on seeking knowledge of Islam?
6.What does tawakkul (trust in Allah) mean to you day to day?
7.How do you deal with differences of opinion among the scholars?
8.What role does du'a play in your daily life?
🕌Deen & Practice9 questions
9.How regularly do you pray the five daily prayers?
10.Do you pray the sunnah and nafila prayers regularly?
11.How often do you read the Quran?
12.Do you fast beyond Ramadan (e.g. Mondays and Thursdays)?
13.What is your view on hijab/niqab for women?
14.What is your view on keeping a beard for men?
15.How important is it to you to live near a masjid?
16.What is your view on music and entertainment?
17.Have you performed Hajj or Umrah, or do you plan to?
💍View of Marriage8 questions
18.Why do you want to get married right now?
19.What are your most important expectations of a marriage?
20.What is your view on mahr (bridal gift) — what is reasonable?
21.Do you want a large wedding celebration or a simple nikah?
22.What is your view on polygyny?
23.Are you open to marrying a revert (convert)?
24.Are you open to marrying a divorced person?
25.How long an engagement period do you think is appropriate?
⚖️Roles & Rights8 questions
26.What is your view on the man’s role as qawwam (provider/protector)?
27.What is your view on the woman’s role in the home?
28.What is your view on the woman working outside the home?
29.Who should manage the household finances?
30.How do you divide household chores fairly?
31.What is your view on the wife visiting her family — how often?
32.What is your view on living near the in-laws?
33.Which rights do you think matter most in a marriage?
👨👩👧👦Family & Relationships8 questions
34.How close is your relationship with your family?
35.How involved do you want your family to be in your marriage?
36.How do you handle it if your partner and your family do not get along?
37.Do you expect your partner to live near your family?
38.What is your view on caring for elderly parents?
39.How important is it that your partner’s family accepts you?
40.What is your view on socialising with friends of the opposite gender?
41.What is your view on boundaries with ex-partners or past relationships?
💬Communication9 questions
42.How do you handle disagreements and conflict?
43.Are you someone who talks openly or needs time to think?
44.How do you express love and appreciation?
45.What do you do when you are angry or sad — withdraw or talk?
46.What is your view on receiving constructive criticism?
47.How important is daily communication when you are apart?
48.Are you comfortable talking about difficult topics?
49.What is your view on using social media in the marriage?
50.How do you handle stress and the pressures of daily life?
💰Finances8 questions
51.What is your current financial situation (debts, savings)?
52.What is your view on saving vs. spending money?
53.Do you want joint or separate bank accounts?
54.What is your view on taking loans (e.g. a mortgage, car loan)?
55.How much do you want to give in sadaqah regularly?
56.Do you have debts your partner should know about?
57.What do you consider reasonable spending on housing?
58.What is your view on investing money — stocks, property?
👶Children & Upbringing9 questions
59.Do you want children? How many would you like?
60.When do you want to start trying for children — right away or wait?
61.How do you want to raise the children Islamically?
62.Which schools do you want the children to attend — Islamic or state?
63.What is your view on discipline?
64.Do you want the children to learn Arabic?
65.What is your view on the children socialising with non-Muslim friends?
66.What do you do if you cannot have children — fostering, IVF?
67.How do you divide parental leave?
🏃Health & Lifestyle8 questions
68.Do you have any chronic illnesses or health problems?
69.How important is physical activity and health to you?
70.Do you have any allergies or dietary restrictions?
71.What is your view on smoking or vaping?
72.What is your view on mental health — therapy, counselling?
73.What hobbies and interests do you have?
74.Are you a morning or an evening person?
75.How much time do you need for yourself?
❤️Intimacy8 questions
76.What is your view on intimacy in marriage — expectations?
77.Are you comfortable talking openly about intimacy?
78.What is your view on contraception and family planning?
79.Which boundaries do you think are important?
80.What is your view on showing affection in public?
81.How do you handle it if one partner has lower or higher needs?
82.What is your view on seeking professional help if there are problems?
83.What are your expectations for the first months of marriage?
🤝Conflict Resolution8 questions
84.How do you resolve conflict — directly, or do you need time?
85.Are you willing to seek Islamic counselling if there are problems?
86.What is your view on involving family in conflicts?
87.What are your absolute boundaries (deal-breakers)?
88.What is your view on divorce — when is it acceptable?
89.How do you handle jealousy?
90.What is your view on apologising and forgiving?
91.What do you do if your partner wants to move to another country?
🌍Life in the West8 questions
92.Which city do you want to live in — a big city or a smaller town?
93.What is your view on raising children in a secular society?
94.How do you handle Ramadan during the long summer days?
95.What is your view on secular preschools and their values?
96.Do you want your children to have dual citizenship?
97.What is your view on integration vs. preserving cultural traditions?
98.How do you handle discrimination and Islamophobia?
99.Could you consider moving to a Muslim country?
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Last updated: April 2026